Comments on: Do Metaphysicians Grieve?

By: Jan

Jan — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:21:42 +0000

Hi Andrew –
Yes, my friend, I am doing fine. In a way, writing and talking about her death – and death in general – has helped my hubby (Jeff) and I. I think of her daily, and talk to her often (she pops in now and again).

And yes, many do squirm in their seats when talking about death; and I do realize that we each handle death our own unique way – so there is nothing wrong with your handling it unabashedly!

*Hugs* to you – and Thank You Andrew!

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:39:47 +0000

Hey beautiful Jan, what an amazing story. You have my (energetic) hugs – felt it? Woo, I definitely felt you. You’re still aching – right? Clean but still raw and open. One year after writing this – well she is your child! How terrible to lose your child before her time! I’m self conscious about my psychic ability but I think I’m feeling you right.. I still have ya in my heart chakra Have lots of energy, there’s more where that came from. Love you

It’s funny I found this because just today I noticed an old blog post of mine about a friend who died (www.andrewgubb.com/drupal/aris) and I was writing about the same thing. I knew she was still alive on another plane, but it hurt anyway. Why does it hurt so much? I think it’s a bit of a mystery in a way, but I don’t want to deny a single part of the beauty of being human

It was funny when I expressed my grief so openly with the large group of people I was staying with (mostly non-metaphysicians *gasp* SO MANY SYLLABLES)… most of them were VERY uncomfortable with the idea of death. I noticed most of them kind of shifting in their seats. They don’t like to be reminded about their fear that one day they might just stop existing. So maybe I experience grief differently by being unabashed about it!

Hope you’re doing OK darling.

Love

Andrew

By: Lorri

Lorri — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 12:48:19 +0000

Beautiful story. I think that your friend asked a funny question, though. Why wouldn’t you grieve? You are human and having a physical experience. Separation from a loved one is a very real part of this experience and the feelings mirror the larger one of being separated from our source; whether one calls the source God, oneness, etc.
That’s my thinking, anyway Thanks for sharing this story.

By: Jan

Jan — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:45:09 +0000

Thank you Michael for your kind words. And yes, I agree with you.

By: michael

michael — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:46:25 +0000

Hi Jan, Thank you for sharing your experience. You are absolutely right – even Jesus grieved. But as he we should overcome our grieve by knowing that in reality our loved ones are not dead but live and as the remote stars we are not able to see them by our material senses. And though we mis their words and physical presence their thoughts and good deeds are always with us.

WIth much love,

Michael.

By: Jan

Jan — Thu, 28 May 2009 00:08:38 +0000

Thank you Max. And am pleased if it reassures anyone.

By: Max

Max — Thu, 28 May 2009 00:00:28 +0000

Jan, I am so sorry your daughter left early. But how lucky you are to be aware of her visits. The majority of us hope they are around us and hear how much we still miss and love them. But you have absolute certainty and experience it fully. Thank you for the reminder and the reassurance that they *do* hear us. It means a lot, I can never hear it too much..big thank you for sharing.

By: Jan

Jan — Wed, 27 May 2009 20:24:10 +0000

Thank you Liz.
JoAnna was a special person (but I am very biased on this subject), and am grateful for the time I had with her.

By: Jan

Jan — Wed, 27 May 2009 20:20:05 +0000

Thank you Karen.

By: Liz Cook

Liz Cook — Wed, 27 May 2009 18:26:02 +0000

JoAnna came here as a very special gift to you. Her purpose on this earth was to teach you unconditional love. Her presence here was selfless. Her true desire and love was to be home, where she is now. The drugs, rebellious nature was justified because she would not conform to the darkness of this world. She completed her mission long before she left, but her plan was altered, as she too fell in love with you, and that allowed her to grow also. When the time came where she was of age to cut the apron stings, it was time for her to go.

Of course you are going to grieve, otherwise, she would not have completed her mission.

Unconditional love is what it’s all about. How you exit, the things you have to go through, the contrast, is only there as a tool to align you with who you are. It’s all drama, nothing more.