(Can read Part One here)
A message from my team:
“We know you are feeling worn out, tired and frustrated.
We want you to know that you really are amazing, and have done a wonderful job.
And you’ve never been alone. We (each person’s team) are here with you each step of the way; through the joyous times and the rough times. We support you, and the work you have done and continue to do.
Each one of you has helped the human race progress – as a whole – very well. We know you may have trouble seeing it, because the negative seems overwhelming sometimes. We ask that when you feel overwhelmed, please shine brighter. You forge the new paths. Let your light shine to lead the way!”
When I was younger, I was very frustrated and angry because I didn’t understand why I would learn/know/see something; share it; and the message would be mostly ignored until anywhere from 5 to 15 years later, when someone else would share the same information and it would spread like wildfire.
I would complain to my team. “What am I, chopped liver? I said that exact same thing XX years ago!”
This attitude came and went in waves over many years. I could go quite a few years with no problems – then one day I’d be really annoyed.
Finally, a few years ago, I asked my team, “Why do you want me to continue writing when it is mainly overlooked until someone else says the same thing? There are other things I could be doing to help people with that time I use to channel and write.” Yeah, I whined.
As always, ego blathers – my team explains – and I feel like a heel. (My own doing, mind you.)
They explained that – as a Way Show-er – I wrote those articles as I experienced them and/or was shown information to help the other Way Show-ers who were experiencing it (so they’d know they weren’t alone) or getting ready to experience it, (so people would have a “heads up”).
So, those who needed to hear it XX years ago, received the information in a timely manner for them. And those ready to hear it now will receive in a timely manner for them.
Yes, it was a “slap my forehead, duh” moment for me.
So, Fellow Way Show-ers
Just because we don’t always get to see the outcome (or maybe even the reason why) of our work, that does not lessen the importance, nor the impact, of what we do.
- Let ego know that its concerns have been heard (referencing the feeling unheard and unappreciated, etc.) and release it.
- Burn out doesn’t help you or others. Please take some “me” time to regenerate, relax and regroup.
- Feel free to ask your team to help rebalance you – though please find the occasional “me time” as well.
- And if need be, re-read the message from my team to you. Our work is appreciated, though we may not always see that on the physical level.
Keep up the good work, fellow Light Bearers, and Shine On!
by Jan Toomer
Q. Why don’t you write many Energy Updates anymore?
A. There are a lot of other sources that provide the update. If the energy is intense, I will share someone else’s post on that energy update (on Reality Undefined’s FB page). If I do not come across someone else’s post that is informative about the energies coming through and what we (generalized) are experiencing, then I will put out another Energy Update.
Q. My mom died last year, and I really miss her. How can I see her or communicate with her?
A. I am sorry for your loss. Even though I believe no one is truly “gone” – they just no longer wear the body suit we had come to know – we certainly can grieve the loss of their physical presence.
First, I do highly recommend grief counseling or grief group to help you with your grief.
Second, when our grief is overwhelming, our deceased loved ones have trouble getting through to us.
When our deceased loved one’s physical body dies, and the loved one crosses over, they do not always try to pop in to say “Hi!”, or “I am okay”, etc. They have their own counseling to receive, a life review, education/training to go through and so on.
Also, if it is (a) against your soul plan; (b) unhealthy for you (example: you are not dealing with your own life, escapism, not dealing with your grief, etc.); (c) other reasons that may not be divulged to us…then they will not visit.
Having said that, please be assured that the reason(s) they don’t visit/make their presence known is not because of lack of love…ever! I don’t care what kind of relationship you had on Earth. Once we go “Into the Light”, we leave all earthly pettiness and crap behind. Period. The love they have for you when they cross over is stronger than you can even imagine.
When the grieving process had been allowed (counseling if one gets stuck), and the deceased loved one is allowed (as per your own soul plan/soul path), they can visit you in dreams.
Another way is they can send a gentle reminder of their presence. This can come in the form of:
- a song on the radio
- pennies or coins
- a specific animal crosses your path (specific bird, butterfly, ladybug, Corgi, etc.) that means something special to you – or one that may have connection between you and the deceased loved one
Here are some examples of how my deceased loved ones pop in to say “Hi!” to me:
- my father plays a song from the Carpenter’s on my satellite radio.
- my grandfather came with the spontaneous smell of cigars (until I asked him to stop that – the smell turns my stomach. He began coming with the smell of Old Spice aftershave and all was good).
- my mother brings the a faint smell of cigarette smoke. my grandmother will gift me with the gentle scent of roses.
- one dog nudges my hand (like she did when she was alive).
- two other dogs make the click-clack sound on their nails on the wood floor.
Q. I want to communicate with my mom, but haven’t found a medium that has been able to do this. Why not?
A. Mediums and spiritual messengers (channelers) would love to help you communicate with your mom, but it isn’t like going to restaurant, ordering something specific and it arrives.
Another way to look at it is — just because we have the “phone” and the “phone number” doesn’t mean someone is there to take our call.
Those who have crossed over have their own stuff going on. Though mom can be requested, we can only be the messenger for those who come forward for us to hear/see. (Also, take note of the previous question – some of those may apply as to why mom hasn’t stepped forward.)
Now, if someone tells you that they guarantee they can connect with your mom, please run away.
Q. You are able to communicate with those on the other side. Do you have to prepare before you meet with the client? Do you have any physical sensations?
A. After a client schedules an appointment with me, their team might open up communication with me anytime before the actual appointment. I usually write this down as it comes. By the client setting an appointment, it is giving their team the go ahead to communicate with me.
The team may bring forward some information, which can be a message (or messages) they want to give the client. Sometimes the information they provide are answers to some of the questions the client intends to ask at their appointment.
On the day of the appointment is when it can get really busy for me (but not always). There is a lot of activity, and usually more communication with me for the client.
This is when I may begin experiencing physical sensations. I may begin sweating (or in the south we said, “Glistening. Women don’t sweat.”), my heart speeds up a bit, the communication becomes a bit louder and I feel the team’s presence more strongly in the area with me. Though it may sound uncomfortable, it isn’t.
About 30-45 minutes prior to the clients appointment, the energy builds up so much that I get antsy. I cannot sit still or concentrate.
If the client is anywhere from 5-15 minutes out from the appointment time, things get very still.
If you’ve ever experienced “the calm before the storm”, you know how eerily quiet it gets. I also liken this to the eye of the storm of a hurricane or tropical storm. It stays that eerie quiet until the roar of the other side of the storm comes through.
When the appointment time arrives, a milder form of “antsyness” comes in. Their team usually wants to jump right into and begin communicating (begin the session).
Because of the intense energy, I usually only see one client, or do one case, a day.
Further Reading/Possible Interest:
E-book (pdf) – Life Before, During and After Being a Human — $4.00
Do Metaphysicians Grieve? (article, free)
by Jan Toomer
This topic has been brought to my attention — repeatedly, over the last three weeks – from people as well as my team, so I’d like to go into it a bit.
There are Way Show-ers (aka First Wave, Lightworkers, Light Bearers, First Responders, etc.) who stay a bit ahead of the curve. These are the beings who came into this lifetime with a different frequency than the mainstream. This is so they could:
- Help forge the way
- Open new paths
- Offer chances to think outside of the box
- Offer a higher frequency to help others raise theirs higher
- To shake up belief systems
- Offer new perspectives
- And/or turn others once known perceptions upside down
These Way Show-ers can be blatant or subtle; in your face or behind the scenes; in the public eye or publicly unknown.
They can have abilities that could knock your socks off (metaphorically speaking) or be so understated that no one knew anything had happened and/or changed until looking back at the meeting/incident later.
They challenge with their words, actions, views and/or energy.
They support with their words, actions, views and/or energy.
And lately, quite a few of them/us are a tad prickly or cranky.
Why? One word…
Just like everyone else, the Way Show-ers are working on healing, clearing or releasing their past and past lives.
Just like everyone else – they too ride the energy rollercoaster that ebbs and flows on Earth.
They too are working on raising their frequency, and are usually ahead of the mainstream, experiencing the upcoming and new to aid others when they approach the new.
Just like everyone else, they are also working to pay bills, feed the family, etc.
And then there’s each individual’s spiritual and/or energy “jobs”. Each Way Show-er has their own unique twist to their abilities which they utilize to aid others.
Additionally, they are holding and supporting the higher frequencies for all life here – including humans, animals and Mother Earth.
And, just like anyone else, when Way Show-ers are tired, they can get out of whack and feel:
- lost and/or alone
- worn out
- stretched thin
- annoyed with 3D drama
They can also feel as though they are spinning their wheels for nothing or impatient to get the “real stuff” going.
Well, I am sure you get the point.
Having said that, please know that not one person’s role is more – or less – important on Earth than anyone else’s.
by Jan Toomer
Some people have been experiencing their past re-emerging, providing a chance to clean up, or heal it and release it.
The past showing up can be in the in or more of the following forms (but not limited to):
Some one from your past may contact you or pop back into your life.
You may dream of a person from the past, an incident from the past or a fantasy-like dream in which you re-visit the energy of a person or incident from your past.
Spontaneous memories popping in your head and/or current incident or person whose energy triggers a (still unresolved or not healed) memory from your past.
What’s the Reason?
These opportunities are a good time to:
- heal any lingering or unresolved issues with that person or incident.
- and to decide if you are going to allow that person and/or that kind of energy back into your life (boundaries).
I have written, various times over the years, on how we are working on clearing up and healing our past.
What? You thought it would only take a week or two? Nah. We spent a lot of time building a lot of gunk over this – and other – lifetimes. It takes a while to clean it out.
And we are doing all of this to let go of third dimension duality. We are removing our anchors that have not only kept us grounded in third dimension, but has also perpetuated the reincarnation cycle illusion associated with third dimension.
We are unhooking ourselves to move on to something much lighter; to expand beyond the third dimension confines, which are not natural to us, and to begin to re-experience our untapped and unlimited potential.
Clean and Fresh
Though I am sure I am not done yet, I have been waking in the morning feeling cleaner – energetically – inside.
The best way to describe it is to think of an old water pipe. Calcium build up added to any other hard water minerals as well as any corrosion from the pipe itself. The flow would certainly be compromised by all of the gunk.
I’ve been waking with the feeling that the corrosion and mineral build ups, so-to-speak, have been cleaned out of me.
I feel a whole lot cleaner and fresher.
What if I’m Stuck?
It happens. If you are stuck, I recommend seeking help. Asking for help is not a weakness…it takes a lot of courage to ask.
Maybe start with your team (guides) and asking them to help you to gently and safely heal and release your past.
And, more importantly, let your team aid you.
Ho’oponopono is another excellent method to employ.
There are a lot of different ways to seek help, including counseling if you are stuck in trauma.
by Jan Toomer
I took two steps and stopped.
Something inside my chest shifted…
then cracked and shattered.
I began crying…hard.
I tell God that I think I
just broke me…I’m broken
and that I don’t know what
to do about it.
I feel as if someone grabbed me
and shook me, they’d
hear the broken pieces rattle
inside of me.
It was then I realized I wasn’t
broken! I had just freed my
heart that I’d been protecting.
And I no longer needed to.
It was freedom I was experiencing…
I am free.
11/27/11 – Another blast from the past. Not sure what I was going through, but the feelings and experience were tangible.
by Jan Toomer
The Twin Towers had burned.
Men’s minds became numb
as death tolls had mounted.
Then men’s hearts burned with fury.
Has healing actually occurred,
or did we just make hearts
– – –
A blast from the past. My thoughts after the one year anniversary of 9/11.