Working with my team (guides) in this phase of my life has brought some changes.
My team not only offers suggestions on articles to write, but also offers suggestions for my personal growth.
As always, I am – and everyone else is – free to follow the team’s guidance or suggestions, or to ignore it. Free will.
I – most of the time – give their suggestions a whirl. Sometimes the suggestions are easy to follow or implement…sometimes not so easy.
I am sharing some recent suggestions – and how it’s gone for me so far.
- You are sharing too much.
This one confused me a bit. One of the things I do is write articles, sharing my observations, experiences, and/or discoveries so – hopefully – someone else can benefit from them.
This is why I was so confused. My team often offered suggestions for what to write/share. Did this mean I should stop writing? When I asked my team, they gave me an emphatic “keep writing”.
It wasn’t until the next suggestion came through that I began to understand where they were coming from.
No Explanations Necessary
- No longer explain yourself.
When I asked for clarification, this is what I perceived: Example – “When someone asks you a question, you can answer ‘yes’, ‘no’, or something along the lines of ‘I don’t have an answer right now’. And that should be it.
“When you apologize and explain yourself, you are actually giving a part of yourself / your power over to that other person. You are diminishing yourself energetically and emotionally.”
Now, I can’t say “don’t explain yourself to your boss” – that would probably get you fired. I am also a firm believer that if you are teaching/instructing someone, explanations are often necessary.
I think – for me – what my team was saying may have taken one of my beliefs a step further.
I believe my actions speak for themselves. If you know me, or my writings well enough, then you know I have reasons for what I do. If I quit doing something; or walk away from someone or something – it’s for a very good reason for me. I don’t need to explain to someone why I stopped.
Now another layer seems to present itself by adding verbal/written communication. If asked a question, now, I will answer ‘yes’ or ‘no’. I will not explain my reasoning behind it.
I have honored others decisions without pressuring for an explanation. If someone says ‘no’, they must have a good reason for it… and they don’t OWE me an explanation. I should allow myself the same courtesy.
After a few rounds of providing an answer and no explanation, a few people became angry with me. I suddenly changed how I responded to others, and it created some confusion. One response to confusion is anger.
One really positive outcome of this has been a rather freeing new relationship – we do not explain ourselves. Period.
Sometimes it is a bit out of my normal comfort zone, but I will – however – continue to work with this suggestion.
That is how it connected to the last suggestion – deprogramming my former need to explain myself.
- Equal exchange.
There is to be an equal exchange.
I have worked hard to honor others time and energy. I am now honoring my time and my energy, and thank you for honoring mine as well. If you need my services, you can go to the Energy Work / Energy Healing page and see what services I offer.
I will continue to write articles. (Donations are appreciated!) I am also dedicating more time to finalizing my first book and working on the second book. (I am excited about this! More on this later.)
by Jan Toomer
Everyone has the right to walk the path they have chosen, just as you have the right to walk your path. (Speaking of those of legal age. There may be special circumstances.)
This is one reason we’ve talked about “no more rescuing others”. By forcing yourself, or your beliefs, upon someone else’s path, you are working to subvert their free will and are disrupting their journey towards soul growth.
Allowing doesn’t mean you stop caring.
I does mean you don’t try to control, manipulate, or force yourself on them.
It means letting them walk their path; letting them stumble, search and seek. It means not judging the path they’ve taken, even if you don’t agree with their decisions.
It also mean standing by, in love, to support, if they ask for it. But there shouldn’t been strings or conditions (to control) attached to the support.
You wouldn’t like someone else interfering with your life; and many of us chafe when we are told what or how we are supposed to run our lives.
Allow others the right to their journey.
Channeled by Jan Toomer
Q. Sometimes the Energy Updates or articles don’t apply to me. Does this mean I’m not growing spiritually? Am I doing something wrong?
A. (Remember – These answers are my perspective). You are doing nothing wrong. And, just because you aren’t experiencing what I write about does not mean you aren’t growing.
I write the updates about what is currently passing through after I have experienced it and have heard from at least two others that have experienced it – though I usually hear from a lot more than two people.
You might have already experienced it; you may experience it later; or you may never experience it. Any one of those is absolutely fine!
I share so that those who may be experiencing what I write (or may experience it later) won’t feel so alone with their experiences.
Q. I have been feeling different lately. It’s kind of like I fit in my body now. Or, maybe it is a feeling of fullness within my body. But, I’ve done nothing different to bring this on. What is this?
A. I’ve noticed that more and more people are present within their bodies now. By this, I mean they were out and about a lot through out their lives. But, within – I’d say – the last few months, they seem to spend more time IN their bodies.
We used to leave our bodies when we worked energy – kind of like we had to leave our body, work energy “over there” and bring the work back to the physical.
Now, though, we are bringing the “over there” to us here, and then working the energy. We aren’t leaving our bodies as much.
This is – I believe – due to our vibration/frequency raising. And with our vibrations raising, we are much more closer to our pre-human-life frequency. This can make us feel less cramped in our body. If we feel less cramped, we are more likely to spend more time in-body.
And, as I see it, this brings us a giant step closer to being our true selves.
Q. I don’t feel like I’ve been moving forward (or I feel stagnant; feeling like I’m not progressing or growing).
A. I have heard this a lot over the last few months. Please remember that we are much more than our physical bodies. There is so much more going on in our lives than what we physically feel or see.
When I “looked” at each person’s energy, I saw a refining of their energy. It was a lot like looking at the difference between using water and watercolors on paper and using oil paints on canvas. The water and watercolors on paper leaves smeared or fuzzy edges and thinned color within the blurred edges– and oil on canvas can have very defined, sharp edges and full color within.
All of those who came to me with this concern were not seeing or feeling what was happening behind the scenes (so-to-speak). Their energies had been more fine- tuned. This is not something they may necessarily see or feel themselves.
Please have patience with self when you feel you aren’t moving…just like any good play, there is a lot going on behind the scenes.
by Jan Toomer
Be Mindful and in the Now
We recommend that you don’t project your fears, worries or negative “what if’s?” into your future.
The Universe is very literal. You project your fears to tomorrow (later today, next week, etc.) then the Universe thinks that this is what you want and that you want it created.
It will comply.
And you will get exactly what you wanted created…even if it’s not what you meant or meant to create.
Channeled by Jan Toomer
As I mentioned in the last article, I am learning to about the new energies and am trying to bring it more into all that I do. The new energies of love and compassion.
I am not a saint and still have work to do, especially about those who I find abrasive.
I Thought I Knew
A while back, I thought I knew what “love” and “compassion” were. I was wrong.
I mean, I understood the third dimensional definition of the words, but apparently the new energy versions of love and compassion are much more expansive that I gave credit to.
In this article, I want to address mainly the new energy compassion.
What It Doesn’t Mean
It means no fear. No fear of rejection. No shying away of those in need because you are afraid it might “rub off” on you, etc. No fear.
It does not mean judging someone or their circumstances.
Being compassionate does not mean being a doormat; working yourself to exhaustion or ill health or imbalance; or allowing self to be taken advantage of.
So What Does It Mean?
I guess the best way to describe it would be to ask yourself, “What if that were me?” Would you appreciate kindness and/or understanding?
Perhaps compassion is treating someone exactly as you would want to be treated if you were in the same situation…and feeling it on the soul level.
I, and a small group of friends, have gone out and done property cleansings and blessings (removing ghosts from a home or business).
Speaking for myself, I would enter the property with the energy of “get in, get it done, and get out”. And I would be totally wiped out afterwards.
Very compassionate and loving, right? Not.
My team stopped me one day before a cleansing and said that the next place we were going to needed to be approached and handled with love and compassion only.
So I didn’t go in with the attitude “everyone out!” and then clean and seal the property.
Instead, my whole energy changed.
The whole feel of the cleansing and blessing changed.
It was absolutely beautiful.
Afterwards, I was feeling calm, peaceful and relaxed. I wasn’t wiped out at all.
I was so excited with this outcome that I began to see if I could work love and compassion into everything (a work in progress).
But here’s the catch. For me, I needed to let go of my third dimensional understanding or perception of love and compassion.
I needed to go bigger and more expansive with it.
And I needed to feel it.
Trust me, you’ll know when you reached it. It is a feeling that is pretty much indescribable – written and verbal words do it no justice.
by Jan Toomer