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Impacting Others

Usually at lunchtime, or in the evenings, I will watch one or two re-runs of “Extreme Makeover: Home Edition” with Ty Pennington.

It’s a show about renovating, or re-building, homes in the US of those who submitted their stories and request to ABC – and were chosen by ABC.

I love Ty’s high energy; the designers and carpenters creativity; the hundreds of volunteers who come in to help; and love the transformation of the recipient families.

I’ll admit, I cry when I watch these. My husband asked me why I would watch these shows when they make me cry.

I told him that it reminds me that there is still a lot of good out there; but that’s not the only reason I watch them.

I watch them because they also remind me that we each have an impact on others’ lives.

Sure, it may not be as dramatic or blatant as this one- or two-hour show, but you and I are impacting others every single day; we usually aren’t even consciously aware of it.

Our words and actions – be they kind or unkind – alter or change someone every day.

Energy-wise, I see those who put out unkind, harsh, and/or damaging words to others because they feel bad about themselves. Remember the saying, “Misery loves company”?

Those who go through the day being helpful, uplifting, and/or positive also spread that positive energy.

How will you impact someone’s life today?

Anger and Promoting Change

During a phone conversation with Liz, she mentioned a young adult who had a lot of anger; anger at people in general. Anger at people lying; deceit, corruption, the pickle the county is in; and the list goes on.

I asked her how old this person is – she said thirty-years old. I explained that, roughly, ages 30 and below are totally fed up with the state of humans and of the world. Though this anger/frustration is not limited to just the younger people, I have seen that they appear to be ‘stuck’ and are not sure what to do about it.

I also reminded her of: how I learned at a very young age, that humans (generalized) lie; their mouths said one thing, but their energies and thoughts said something different; and how both she and I had gone through this angry-phase as well and that we each were unable to do anything about it until we got past the anger hurdle.

Anger can be a springboard to begin changes; however, action in anger is not very constructive. Each person must find their way over that hurdle.

I spoke with another friend of mine this weekend and broached this same topic. She recommended ‘service to others’; not as a doormat – rather finding constructive ways to assist others. She said, that for her, she decided to start changes within and then work her way outward.

I had learned that I couldn’t change the world all at once. What I could do was change me; change my outlook and find a way to help others. I began to offer my classes/experiences to assist others not only metaphysical ideas and abilities, but also to hopefully expand others’ perceptions and awareness – and offer those who took my classes a way to change negative energies into positive, and create a more positive reality.

I suggest that we each get out there and do something constructive and productive to encourage change.

Want to help others move into a more peaceful frame of mind? You may want to become a therapist.

Want to work with others in a more linear way? Bank teller, architect, etc.

Want to encourage green living?

Perhaps alternative medicine to help others?

What can you do to change your anger, frustration, etc. into something more positive? What can you do to promote change? What can you do to change the world, one person at a time?

Unexpected Lesson in Gratitude

Have you thought about the people in your life? Your spouse or loved one; child or children and friends? Are you ever grateful to have them in your life?

How about the people you loathed, detested, disliked? Yep, the people you don’t (or didn’t) like.

The ones who were mean to you; hurt you; abused you; bullied you, etc. Have you ever been grateful about having had them in your life?

By now you’re either calling me nuts (or other not so pleasant names) – or I have piqued your interest.

When I was younger, I attended a parenting class. One of our first homework assignments was to go home and write all of the parenting skills we had learned from our parents.

I began stewing within.

The next class, when it was time to turn in our home assignments, I handed the instructor a sheet of paper with my name on it; nothing else.

The instructor looked at me – eyebrows raised – and the unspoken question hung between us.

I defiantly said, “My father traveled, so parenting was left to my mother.”

The instructor waited – so I continued, “There’s not one parenting skill she passed on to me.” There, I said it!

She smiled and said how lucky I was.

My jaw dropped; she continued, “So you are telling me that she taught you what NOT to do. You are so lucky.”

I was dumbstruck….and she was right!

After that, I began looking back over my life. Since I had worked hard to find the positive from situations in my life, shouldn’t I have included the people I didn’t like and the situations intertwined with those people?

The answer was yes.

I objectively looked back and saw that I gained much from those encounters.

I then silently thanked each individual for providing me those hard, but definitely worthwhile, life lessons.

I really am a better ‘me’ because of what they each taught me; I am grateful to have had them in my life.

I am who I am today because of all of the experiences with all of the people and situations in my life up to this point.

Yes, I am grateful.

May 13, 2009

“Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life” – W. Dyer

“Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao”, by Wayne Dyer. (C) 2007, Hay House Inc. ISBN 978-1-4019-1184-3.

Dyer gives 81 verses, his interpretation, some examples, and exercises for each for the reader to experience.

I had always wanted to get learn more about the Tao, but – like most in today’s society – didn’t have the time to sit and figure out the interpretation of the Tao. Dyer does gives his view on it, and explains it wonderfully – and his exercises are great for anyone.

In all fairness, I have to let you know that I have not finished reading this book – and have been reading it now for about three months. This does not mean it will take you that long to read it.

So, why am I offering it up when I’ve not finished it? Because I think the book is great; and I haven’t finished it yet because I am taking my time with the exercises – I really am working on experiencing them.

As a side note: Dyer sometimes on PBS, and if you’ve the chance to see him – I think you will enjoy hearing him speak.

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