face-636092_640In my experiences, some ghosts* may ask their (still living in the physical) loved ones to forgive them.

Spirits*…well, they don’t ask for forgiveness. Surprised? Yeah, me too, until they explained it to me.

Ghosts, which we’ve touched on before, are still connected to their emotions, feelings, concerns, fears, etc. that hey had while they were in a physical body.

When one dies and crosses over, they (the spirits) are disconnected, or unplugged from the drama, emotions, and duality found on Earth.

They do not forget us when they cross over. They just aren’t mired down in the dimensional illusions and energies that we remain in here.

Life Review

The life review happens once you cross over. You will review your life experience; observing and experiencing it objectively.

You will also experience how you treated others, as though you were each person you interacted with; for better or worse. This is so you will truly understand how your words, deeds, and actions affected those with whom you interacted.

After the objective life review, the spirit can begin the process of atoning; making good or working to rebalance any harm done.

But they don’t ask for forgiveness.


Simplified, I think a good way to begin the explanation is to start with this quote by Jim Beaver:

“Forgiveness is not something you do for someone else; it’s something you do for yourself. To forgive is not to condone, it is to refuse to continue feeling bad about an injury.” Life’s That Way: A Memoir.

A spirit has no right to ask you for forgiveness.

They can, however, take responsibility for their actions and words; the wrongs and harm they have caused.

They can say “I’m sorry”.

They can heal the energy from them to you. Not into you; rather up to you.

We cannot change anyone but ourselves.

And only you can heal the energy from you to the situation or to him/her.

We can each forgive ourselves and the energy between us and the person wronged/ the person we wronged.

How Can I Begin?

There is no one-size-fits-all to begin the self healing process. I can recommend, and have used myself, Ho’oponopono. An easy to understand technique; though I found it wasn’t easy for me to implement. But, it was so very worth working my way through it.

And with it, I found….Freedom.

“Each person you meet
Is an aspect of yourself,
Clamoring for love.”
~ Eric Micha’el Leventhal

“True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience’.” ~ Oprah Winfrey.

* These are how I use these terms – doesn’t mean others use them as I do.
– Spirit = one who has died and crossed over.
– Ghost = one who has died and remains connected/attached to Earth (did not cross over). Note: Those in a coma or have severe dementia may appear to mediums as though they were a ghost.


by Jan Toomer

Quotes were from: www.goodreads.com


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