I saw a post making its way through Facebook. Though intended to be funny, it struck a chord in me.
“Dear Friends
Your Christmas gift this year is me. That’s right, another year of friendship. Your membership has been renewed.” ~ Unknown
Again, it was intended to be humorous, but in reality we do have the role, and the responsibility to decide who to keep in our life and who doesn’t get “renewed”.
We also have the right to carry relationships forward, or not, guilt free.
Though not restricted to December, perhaps the end of a calendar year is a good time to re-evaluate relationships and decided if you are going to maintain – or renew – it or are you moving forward into the new year without that relationship?
I’ve always considered January 1st as a clean slate for the new year. I ask myself, “What kind of energy do I want to bring forward?”
You May Want to Ask Yourself
Thinking about one specific relationship at a time, you may want to ask yourself some questions.
– Does this relationship make me feel good about myself?
I’m not talking about ego-stroking. Rather feeling supported, experiencing honesty, and feeling comfortable enough to be yourself while in this relationship.
– Do I feel lifted by this relationship AND do I want to lift the other as well? Does this relationship make me want to be supportive of them?
If you’re aren’t excited to reciprocate, then perhaps this relationship needs to be re-evaluated. If you do want to reciprocate, this may be an energetically balanced relationship.
– Do I feel dread (feel unease or perhaps nauseous) thinking about being around that person / those people or that place?
Aside from any social anxieties (see you counselor for those), these may be warnings to you. You may want to step back and take a good, objective look at this relationship.
– Do I feel excited about being around this person / place?
Membership Renewal Time?
It’s not necessary to wait until the end of a year to take a close look at your relationships. And it’s okay to keep your balance, even if it means weeding out the unbalanced and/or unhealthy relationships.
During your membership renewal time, which memberships will you renew? What are you bringing with you into 2020?
By Jan Toomer
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