As you know, our daughter JoAnna committed suicide in 2009. Though her physical death occurred in 2009, she actually started her death process on September 11, 2001 – also known as 9-11.
We were lucky in that we knew why she killed herself, but it didn’t make that act of finality and the physical loss any easier. So many survivors don’t know the reason for their friend or loved one committing suicide. Either way…suicide sucks.
Many survivors, regardless if they know the reason behind the suicide or not, are left with so many questions that often no one has any answers to. And then there’s the risk of the survivors sinking into the rabbit hole of guilt. “Maybe if I’d done ______ differently.”*
JoAnna had been on probation, and after her suicide, her probation officer – a wonderful man – had told me two things that stuck with me all these years:
1. If someone REALLY wants to commit suicide, they’ll find a way.
2. She’s not tormented anymore. She’s finally at peace. You both can be in peace now.
Neither of those helped me at the time; but over time, both helped.
A lot of those who commit suicide often can’t see or think beyond wanting to make the pain and/or inner turmoil stop. They can’t think of any other way out of what they feel is an overwhelming predicament they found themselves in or created. And the survivors are left to pick up the pieces, and wonder, “Why?”
FAQ’s
Q. Are all suicides intentional?
A. Energetically speaking, no. There are intentional and unintentional (or accidental) suicides. Some examples of unintentional suicides are those where they did not mean to take their life, but their actions brought about their death.
- Drug overdoses that weren’t intentional
- Playing around with a gun – for example – and not realizing it was loaded
- Driving under the influence and causing an accident resulting in the driver’s death
Q. What do those who commit suicide and have crossed over say to you about it?
A. The first thing is that they accept responsibility for the suicide, regardless if it was accidental or intentional. They have learned that their actions had led to their demise, and that they in turn affected those who’d been in their life.
Second, they often say they’re sorry for hurting their loved ones.
And last, they ask their loved ones to move forward and enjoy their life. No seeking revenge, living in guilt or living in despair. They love us and want us to be happy.
Q. Is committing suicide a part of one’s soul contract or plan?
A. I honestly believe it can be for some, and for others it appears to be outside of their plan.
Each survivor will find out and ask them once our physical time here has been completed.
We will see them again.
Seek Help
Please seek help, like grief counseling and/or survivor counseling. And if you have suicidal thoughts, again, please seek help. You are on Earth for a reason. You are needed here.
*I am not a medical doctor nor a therapist. This article is based on my experiences, both as a survivor and as a medium, as well as the energetic interpretations. Take what fits you and release the rest.
Related:
The Hardest Thing I Have Ever Written
By Jan Toomer
Resources:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish.
Also for Loss Survivors
800-273-8255
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Web
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